Kindness

Kindness should never be pretentious. Agreed?

If one has to try one's best to like another person, that just implies how much one dislike the other. If you flag her as dangerous, when the initial conclusion is drawn, and the person has to be around. She is to you as a thorn in the flesh. You observe every move she swings and suspecting she is trying to do something harmful to you.

Distrust sends any relationship into distruction. We'd rather the person come to term of admitting her/his own feelings.

No one likes just anybody naturally. We always have some impression about some kind we could not show our favor to. We try to be kind. But kindness can hardly be defined as an outward action like a smile or a hug. It is to both parties' interest to keep a safe distance.

Next time you want to be kind to someone you don't like, make an effort to change your impression about the person first. 'Cause it is not her who annoys you, but how you think about her that annoys you. So spare her as well as yourself.

Maybe in that way, you can look at her objectively, and eventually you will have a chance to really like her.

Do not love someone just because you want to impress the one you love.

Love yourself.